- Dating in Provo stinks. Ok, that's really kinda harsh, and granted, I don't have a whole lot of experience anywhere else, but still, it's not funnest thing. Let me explain why I think so. It seems that either people go on a lot of dates, or none at all. The older I get, the worse it seems. I don't know what it is, but many people think that going on ONE date means that they are going to be with that person for eternity. This is not the case. After a few dates, then you can start thinking about forever..... :) I'm totally just kidding. But seriously, going on a few dates doesn't mean much of anything, except that you can get to know someone better and see if you want to continue getting to know them better. If not, then that's fine. It happens to everyone. One of my good guy friends says, "I hate spending money on other people's wives!" I completely disagree, because you need to do that to see if something could work out.
- The unknown is sometimes the best. So I always want to know what's going on and what's happening, but I was talking to one of my roommates and she doesn't quite agree. She was saying how sometimes the part of the relationship when you're not sure what exactly is going on is the most fun. It's frustrating and confusing and wonderful all at the same time. It makes you really excited to see the person and just wonder what they're thinking. The beginning is always exciting and it's just great to have someone to smile about and look good for.
- Even the best of people can make stupid mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes. I make plenty of my own mistakes. It just seems that sometimes people don't quite think about what they're doing and the consequences of those actions. I definitely have made plenty of those types of mistakes over the last few years and I still feel bad about those decisions. These mistakes don't make them bad people or anything like that, they just make me want to shake them and shout, "What the heck were you thinking?!" I'm not saying that choosing someone else is a mistake. It's not. We all are looking for something special, and there's a better chance of finding that with some people than with others. I am saying however, that some of the choices that you make in finding that person can be a mistake.
- Even though it may hurt right now, going for what you want in dating and relationships is definitely a good thing in the long run. I was hurt a few years ago and have had a lot of trouble jumping since then. It's not that I didn't have chances, but I was just too scared to get hurt again, because I didn't know if I could handle it. I decided earlier this summer to just go for it. I didn't know how it would turn out, and in the end things just didn't work out. Am I glad that I jumped? Absolutely. Does it still hurt? Most definitely. Would I change anything that I did? Not on your life. I'm glad that I went for it, even if it's just to know that I can.
- In the end, everything works out like it should. This one is hard for me and I have to constantly remind myself of it. I am a fairly impatient person. While I am working on improving this every day, I still don't like to wait for things. I like to have answers now and sometimes that is not the best thing. I want to know why things are the way that they are. I just want to know! I want things in my life to work out how I want them to work out, and that would not be the best thing for me or for anyone else. After going through all the heartache of dating different people, there will come a time when someone will come into my life who will love me and understand me and with whom I will want to spend the rest of my life. Until that time, I'm learning patience and trying to love life as best I can (and I really do love life a lot!)
Now for my little disclaimer -
Overall, dating really is fun and I absolutely love it. I love getting to know different types of people and having awkward stories (I have a TON of those). Sometimes it's hard, especially when you get hurt, but there's always something to learn and grow from. I was talking to a friend a bit ago and he gave me some really good advice. He said to never look at the negative parts of the relationship, because that's all the relationship will be to you. He told me to remember the good things about the person and the relationship, and look for that in the next person. I think that those are great words of wisdom and I'm trying to do that.
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